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Meeting up for a game - Tips to stay safe

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#1 ·
We’ve began to notice that all you Heretics are getting bored of talking over the great wide inter-web and are wanting to meet up and play each other in person. That is brilliant and the Admin team would just like to make sure everybody is safe. It’s a scary world out there, not at all like your backyard where the scariest thing is your neighbours dog, and that’s behind a fence.

While most of us are all very friendly and well adjusted individuals sometimes you might met somebody online who is perfectly nice and normal sounding but in reality may have, lets just say, “other motives”. So:

Please be very careful when you arrange to meet someone for the first time. Make sure the first meeting is in a public venue and don’t just take the persons word that “There is a bar on Featherstone Street, we’ll meet up there”. Have a look into it yourself, ask around and see what the neighbour hood is like. Likewise if somebody says “Come along to the Rabid Midgets War Gaming Club, we are at: 56 Crazy Short Persons Street”, try and find out a bit more about the club from others before you go. You don’t really want to be wandering around back streets trying to find somebodies house that may or may not exist. Always meet in Public first rather than a private residence.

Try and go along when there is a group of people there as this means that all the attention isn’t going to on you. However if you are going to be meeting a individual then:

ALWAYS try and go with a friend and stay with them. If they leave, you should as well.

ALWAYS make sure you speak to the guy on the phone before you agree to meet. Asking to “talk” to them may throw off anybody that may have be out for something other than a war-game. You can also judge them for yourself.

ALWAYS take a fully charged mobile phone

ALWAYS have the means to get home safe about your person - a return train ticket in your shoe or a taxi fare for example.

ALWAYS tell a parent, spouse, responsible friend or flat mate where your going, when you are getting back etc.

ALWAYS arrange to call that person at a pre-set time to tell them you are okay. Use a secret code word to tell them that things are proceeding as planned. For example, if you use the word 'coffee' at any point in your message then things are fine, but if you use the word 'uncle' then you are in trouble and your phone buddy should call the police. So, "Did uncle David get back all right?" is a request for help that you can make even while you are being overheard by someone you distrust. This may sound cheesy and stupid but can potentially save your life.

Another example is this: The people in my flat always text another member of the flat who is at home when they are leaving work. We then know that if they are not back in about half an hour then something has gone wrong and we should head out and start looking for them. Tell your “person“, what route you will be getting home by BEFORE you go, not on the phone. Also vary this route so you can’t be followed from week to week and make sure your “person“, knows which route you are taking. Obviously you shouldn’t walk unless you absolutely have too.

Another good thing to have is a text message saved to your phone that you can send out telling somebody to ring you. You can then fake an emergency and have to rush away without awkward questions.

ALWAYS be a little paranoid. Ask yourself "Why does he want to meet here, in this place? Is someone going to mug me and take all my minis, is there another way to get there?"

Above all just use your common sense and trust your gut. If the situation feels a dodgy then don’t think “oh it’ll be ok”, get out and get home safe.

Don’t take any risks and be safe. Don’t want any of you guys going missing on us.
 
#2 ·
Nice tips Jac, I have a few myself.

Make sure you take your own drink, a bottle of softdrink for example, and until you get to know the person well enough, politely refuse any they may offer by saying "No, I'm good, I've got my *insert drink name here*".

If you're going to someone's house, tell them you're going to be somewhere that is public and ask if they'd like to meet you there, then get some lunch. This will give you a chance to check them out and see if they're trustworthy. If they seem too eager to head off, make sure you have an excuse to leave.

Don't get into a car with someone unless you trust them.

Check out their posts before you meet them to get an idea of their personality. Then when you're talking to them, quote some of the things they've said to guage if it's actually them, or if someone has highjacked their account to try and lure someone.
 
#5 ·
Google Earth is a grand way to start if they give you a specific address. Thanks to the sattelite images, you can even see what type of neighborhood its in; whether or not there are any major roads near the location, or any type of public building or store (ie. Walmart) that you can go for help if needed.
 
#7 ·
I always carry my cossack sword around, do you have a cossack sword to carry around?
If not then a nice Muela Para-military knife or a Double edged SOG will be handy.

Isn't there a thread or forum to post stuff relevant to that?
Like "person" is gonna visit "Otherperson" or "TheOtherPerson" wants to meet up with however the hell at "Place".
 
#8 ·
Maybe another thing is its never a bad idea to take some form of self defence classes, just knowing how to handle yourself is always a good idea, and not just when meeting other gamers.

Failing that,yes, carrying a sword or combat knife works, but you stick someone with one of those, youll come out in the wrong.

Mind, again, being a fairly large hefty kinda lad, I dont really have problems like that either.
 
#57 ·
The ultimate self defence: Awareness, and good cardio!

Even if there are 10 guys after you, they can't hurt you if they can't catch you.

Failing that, you COULD buy a flashbang or smoke bomb. Or maybe a jetpack. It depends on what's reasonable for you financially.
 
#9 · (Edited)



"Dont listen to that noise, come to MY gaming house.... The walls are made of gingerbread and 40k sprues!

What's the cage for you say?

Oh, that's for my invisible pet dinosaur!

He's really friendly actually, why don't I just let you in there so you can pet him...."



:stop:
 
#11 ·
I dunno, I'm not all that paranoid, but then, I'm 37, a big guy, and have never had any problems in meeting folks.

Meeting folks for lunch or something before playing is a good idea.

I've had some great experiences in playing complete strangers off a post card in the FLGS. Had a few that I wouldn't play again either.

Considering most of our readership are minors, I'd recommend being extra cautious and following some of Jac's advise though.
 
#12 ·
Self-defense classes are good.
You can also get a concealed carry permit, if you live in a sane country. :grin:
And of course you can also go to the first game with the bunch of fellow bikers that's accompanying you to Sturgis.
Or is that just me...?
 
#15 ·
Self-defense classes are good.
You can also get a concealed carry permit, if you live in a sane country. :grin:
And of course you can also go to the first game with the bunch of fellow bikers that's accompanying you to Sturgis.
Or is that just me...?
Dang I forgot to bring my mini's last time I went.
maybe next time...
set up a table right down town....see what happens?
Camp at buffalo chip...wet t-shirt contest? again? can't you see it's turn 4?
 
#14 ·
Or well, depending on one's point-of-view...:crazy:
 
#18 ·
I'm glad I live in Norway, where the cops still have whistles. "Pfeeeeeet" Stop, you there!!

Some nice tips tho Jac, It didn't even cross my mind that people could host alternate motives for a gaming session..

Here is my 2 tips

1 "Whatever you do, dont wear a knife"
2 "whatever you do, be sure to land the first punch":victory:
 
#21 ·
Hail,

Indeed, I love gingerbread too :biggrin:


GINGERBREAD FOR THE GINGERBREAD GOD!!! :p


And now for something completely different...
a Khorne Berzerker being decapitated by his own Bloodfeeder!


BFTBG!!!

World Eater
 
#23 ·
good tips, but i only ever game with people i know eg people at my local GW. Thanks anyway! Those would be good for someone in that situation.

_________________________________________________________________________
Bloodthirster: Excuse me, our land raider has thrown a track. Do you have a spare pin?
Space marine: yeah, here it is. See you in the game?
Bloodthirster: yeah, i'm looking forward to dismembering you and eating your souls!

The emperor protects.. fact!
 
#25 ·
Good stuff

Actually, pretty helpful info. I might suggest that meeting at the local game store is a good way to begin.

I myself am pretty wary of new gamers. It's not so much that some of the folks could be dangerous, but maturity levels most certainly vary among individuals and can be a limiting factor to enjoying the game, especially for those of us in the over 40 age group.
 
#26 ·
It's a sad day when somebody lures a kid to their house under false pretences of playing a game of 40k. I mean, to use 40k in such a manner well.... that's just, well, it's Blasphemy!

No really though, this world is full of sick assholes so, you younger players would do quite well to listen to what Jacobite has to say.

And Deceiver, who needs a permit?:biggrin:
 
#28 ·
Interesting thought: What if you meet up with someone you don't know, and they act kind of off, so you get a bit worried, and it shows so they get even stranger... And the reason their acting weird is that they think you're acting weird, and are probably some wacko. Just something I thought of while reading this. Good advice, all.
 
#30 ·
I think the best bit of advice to come out of all this seems to be meet up at a local games store and nowhere else. (Unless your local game store is ran by a weirdo, that is) and as for knives, its probably not a great idea for the brits on here at least although i live in Nottingham so nothing short of Marneus Calgars Honour Guard will make you feel safe round my way.

Either way, cheers for the great advice, at 26 i'm probably a little too old for the more selective perverts around. But the idea of someone Half inching my models is enough to make me think twice.