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post #31 of 116 (permalink) Old 11-12-14, 03:07 AM
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I've spent 17 years trying to not be trans. Even if this isn't the best path, it's the only one I've got at this point.
There are always other paths. But you will do what you feel you must. I wish you the best.


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There are always other paths. But you will do what you feel you must. I wish you the best.
Sure, but I'm pretty anti-suicide, religion failed me, and therapy can't "cure" being trans. The only proven effective treatment is transitioning. So that's what I'm doing.
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Sure, but I'm pretty anti-suicide...
That hurt. Suicide was not an option I considered, for you or for anyone.

Look, if I'm the only one who will ask you this, then I might as well take the flak: Please take the process one step at a time and reassess it at each one. Transitioning has not been proven effective for everyone, and when you hit the last step of SRS then the job is finished. See how the hormone treatments work out first. Give yourself time to really see how they effect you: if the mood swings don't stop, if feelings of anxiety don't abate at all, or if your libido flat out dies, then don't ignore those signs and others. Don't let people hastily explain them away as "normal" and rush you through to the end.

Hate me for it if you wish, but I'd rather congratulate you 17 more years down the line when you're at peace with yourself. Right now it's premature.


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Transitioning is pretty much the only way to stop these feelings. Zion has went through Many more years of this than I have and by the looks of it making the change is the best for her. The only reason I chose to start is because the stress is just building and I didn't want to end up as an old man regretting not doing it.
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3 things

first of I am going to leave this here


second,
do not discount warhawk's genuine concern about YOUR wellbeing to hastily,
I know one transgender that has Always regretted the final surgery. but still it is a minority.

it is always a good thing to second guess your feelings up to a point. and keep taps on how you feel during the process. In my own country you are helped with this, by regular check-ups with a therapist and a physical doctor even during hormone replacement therapy.

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Warhawk I wouldn't take the Suicide thing to personal. it is a thing that crosses the minds of more Trans genders then anyone should be comfortable with, especially those struggling with anxieties.

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Believe it or not I wasn't saying that Warhawk was trying to tell me to kill myself. I was saying that of the options to deal with the problem that is a common one and I've removed it from the table already.

Also not every person who is trans gets SRS (and I'm not just speaking about trans men). The procedure is very expensive, doesn't always have the best results and gives you something that is very high maintenance. I'm not saying I'm against it, just that were I stand now is leaning more towards wanting to wait for better procedures in that department.

And for the record I haven't rushed any part of the proccess. I mean I ended up waiting almost two months for a second psych appointment through the VA so I can show that I have dysphoria and not just a fetish or a case of the tumblr. I could have been self needing months ago but I chose to go through a doctor and try and do this in a controlled manner. This is hardly rushing. Furthermore I've been living with this dysphoria long enough it almost has the right to vote. The only reason I have stayed sane despite the depression and the pain it brings is my work-a-holic nature and suppression of almost all of my emotions (which has lead to me having a number of breakdowns over the year, mostly in private but still).

This isn't something I want to do, it's something I need to do.

Haskanael, good info graphic. It doesn't address that most of the regret comes from social pressures that ruin the person's life, but still good.

And I wasn't discouting anyone. Being overly blunt in my reply while up well past what should have been my bedtime considering I needed to be up before 3:30 am today, but not discounting.

Also transgender is an adjective. The correct plural would be "transgender people".
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Haskanael, good info graphic. It doesn't address that most of the regret comes from social pressures that ruin the person's life, but still good.
thanks, and yeah it does miss that little bit of info. very true


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Also transgender is an adjective. The correct plural would be "transgender people".
for a subject thats so close to home for me, you would think i would know that xD

learn something new everyday!
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Hey, any day spent learning is a day well spent.
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Well the appointment was cancelled because the person who was going to do it wasn't the person they said could (they were a counselor not a psychologist), so now I'm waiting for a new appointment.
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Well the appointment was cancelled because the person who was going to do it wasn't the person they said could (they were a counselor not a psychologist), so now I'm waiting for a new appointment.
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