Guess you're right, though I find it depressing that it took 16 years to learn a skill.
Some people tend to always look on the keyboard and never really try to type without looking. You have to try, in order to learn. If you never look up you might not learn it because you are simply used to see where your fingers go. When this optical feedback is missing, most people will not be able to type.
I had a course once, where I was supposed to learn typing with all 10 fingers and without looking on the keyboard. Before that I used a few fingers, but not all and looked on the keyboard, not the screen (very seldom - I could see what I typed so why look up?). They way you do it is to start with few letters. We only typed fff jjj ffd jjk fdf jkj... in the first lesson. Of course without looking. First you might make a few mistakes but over time you will just get where the letters are and you don't have to think about it anymore.
That way you can learn it in a few weeks, if you keep practicing. The more you use it, the faster you will learn. And to concentrate on just a few letters and add a few more over the course of time helps to intensify the practice. Pretty dull, though.
I still do not write "the correct way" with all fingers, but I use most of them. Usually you are supposed to have a "fixed" position (most keyboards have marks on the f and j, telling you, that this is where your trigger finger should rest). My hands move a lot and I use the first three fingers more than the last two. *shrugs* Works for me.
I am around 65 words per minute that way. Maybe I could improve it, if I would restart the lessons and try to use the "correct way" of 10 finger typing but... it's so dull. >_>