No I don't have children, but I do see your point.
My anger comes more from the fact that this girl basically had shit hit the fan several years before she was ready, and have all this ridiculousness dumped on her at once from absolutely nowhere, only for her friends to basically tell her she's the one at fault for daring to consider leaving her parents and to consider their feelings, when in the short span of approximately two days, she went through one of the hardest times of her life and went from "anxious" to "full blown depression".
coming out is already difficult as all hell as it is, depending on how well you know your parents.
being outed the way she was,quickly turns into a big mess with a lot of loss of control over the situation, can just turn into a complete mess in the first place.
The fact that these were supposed to be among her closest friends and they more or less disregarded her feelings and her depression and basically told her to take her lumps because she's her parents' only child. Precisely 0% of the response text included any "are you okay? How are you holding up? Things will be okay", however it was full of: "think about what you're doing, you're your parents' only child, think about how they feel, James was way out of line".
You where far from out of line, it seems like you are about the only one looking out for the girls best interests.
And yeah I get that people can move past this and should be given a chance, but if this friend is to be believed, this "conversion therapy" is a part of her daily life, and shows no signs of stopping. In my opinion, it's a toxic environment that she needs to remove herself from for the sake of her mental health. With the new school year coming up, even more so.
conversion therapy, the utter bullshit of highly religious and other people that just cant accept that things are as they are. trying to convince people that being gay or trans is a choice or even an illness.
keep supporting her, she will need a good friend.
Parents have hopes and dreams for there children and its not that unusual that parents can feel disappointed at the news that a child is gay
I have seen that excuse used to force gay kids into "normality" and/or shame them for being gay, its the worst thing you can tell your kid/let your kid know when they come out.
I know my dad did, and tho my reaction to it was not the best, I stand by it still.
otherwise yes they do deserve chance in both parties, to fix things between them. taking distancee from eachother for a while will most likely help more then then the girl staying in a supressive environment