I don't take it as a joke because I'm not reading it as a joke. You may see what, in your mind, constitutes a little harmless. I see people being purposely malicious because, in their minds, they see someone who is so much of a "geek" or "nerd" that it makes gamers look like extremists and that fills them with the fear of being associated with such individuals. Why not focus on the skill and creativity that went into the project rather than basking the guy?
The way you perceive people are malicious is showing how you feel so insecure. A majority of us here are geeks and nerds. That guy may be spending a lot for his suit, and a majority of us here has spent more for our plastic soldier. We don't fear being associated with geeks and nerds, because we are one of them. If we fear the association, why we pick up the hobby at the first place? Why join a forum concerning 40K?
My self-esteem is doing quite well thank you, as it isn't mine that is coming under potential attack. Trying to make this into some pop psychology lesson simply isn't going to work.
I am not in possession of any fear that "gamers are not attractive to girls". The fact that you read that into my statement is a testament to your own fears.
And my statement about how a woman would react? Well gosh...it's just a joke. Can't you take a joke?
It's great if you don't have the fear, then. But surely it still doesn't explain well why you perceive other users as malicious, or why you have the inability as a joke?
Oh? Do you know them well enough to know for a fact there was no malice in those statements? Somehow I doubt that you know those people well enough to know what they were thinking and feeling when they posted those comments.
True. I may not know most of them. I even don't know their real names, address, or whatsoever. But I trust in the "innocent before being proven guilty". I trust all of people in the forum as my friends, because we have the same hobby. If some of these friends communicate well with me and maybe play with me, they become closer friends. If some of these friends act like a jerk, we don't become friends anymore. I start all of my relationship on a neutral/friendly relation. I never start a relationship negatively. I trust that all people will try to do their best. I trust that all gamers in this world has "about the same" views on gaming.
Look, I don't want to see this turning into a big flame war. I reacted as I did because I fail to see why anyone needs to belittle what he accomplished in making that suit. I'm certain a lot of us have been on the receiving end of some type of belittlement from those around us because of our hobbies. We're called geeks, nerds, gamers and worse and while I'm sure the majority of us live by the statement, "I really don't give a fuck what others think", I, for one, don't think that's entirely true. I believe that most of us are bothered when that happens even if it's just a little bit. I know I am...and the reason it bothers me is because all it does is reinforce that social wall that separates us from understanding one another. I've never understood the reason to pursue that endeavor.
In fact, if you read closely. Nearly everyone praises the suit. But everybody hates the counter-attack that comes after a joke is lashed out. A joke should be a joke, not more.
That brings me back to those comments here that I perceive as malicious. As part of this community and the larger gaming community, I think we rather owe it to each other to be more supportive of one another. It's not about getting the self-esteem or self-worth that we want to have, but strengthening that self-esteem and self-worth that exists it so that when those unfortunate-and hopefully rare-times when someone outside our community exhibits a snide and belittling attitude towards one of us, it will have no effect. Without any perceived effect, maybe that want to ridicule another will lessen and that wall of separation will begin to crumble.
I think joking with each other is also being supportive with each other. Problem is, some of the people can't react to a joke properly.