If it makes you feel any better, i got into this game cause my friend whose been playing for 15 years wanted a friend to play, and all his other friends quit.
I now see why. Since may 2011 i have lost every single game vs him, he uses tournament level lists vs me, someone who is brand new and had a really garbage IG army for most of that time. I somehow have not quit yet though, even though i have lost at least 1 game a week since i started the game, and basically never winning once.
I find myself playing more for the hobby portion and also the lore than winning. I keep winning for the PC game dawn of war, where there my IG can reck the house.