Critique for da CriticGod
Join Date: Aug 2010
Location: Philadelphia, PA USA
I think Sethis had this right on. And honestly you can probably even agree with the guy on some of the points, and still making the distinction that regardless of his views on 40k you enjoy playing it and he is being rude.
I find I can often undermine somebody else's argument by partially agreeing with them. They don't expect it, and suddenly your position is ambiguous . . . and you might be an ally. Acknowledging his position and feelings validates his feelings while you disagree with his behavior. That serves to separate this guys feelings/opinions from his behavior, which is the real problem.
Then you offer an opportunity for him to continue to have your positive opinions.
Training people and changing their behaviour is mostly an act of positive reinforcement. People (and animals) respond much more strongly to positive reinforcement than negative reinforcement.
Last edited by Kreuger; 01-27-14 at 07:57 PM.