Couldn't agree with you more.
The other night I played a game of Apocalypse at the Gaming Club I frequent.
Was in there for some six hours and had a real hoot, even though I lost through a couple of schoolboy errors early in the game.
I noticed a lot of people looking across patronisingly at the pair of us and could hear the comments about how crap 40K had become with the addition of this, that and the other...
Funnily enough, at our table there was no arguing about rules and there were certainly no tears, which did happen at one table close by.
In fact, all that happened at our table was that we had fun.
I thought that was what it was all about.
Though I take your life, I promise you the stars...